## Introduction Emotions are psychological states associated with thoughts, feelings, behavioural responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure. The original role of emotions was to motivate adaptive behaviours that in the past would have contributed to the passing on of genes through survival, reproduction, and kin selection. There is no accepted scientific definition. It is not clear if emotions are a part of cognition or precede cognition. ## Emotional self-analysis - [[How to recognise what you're feeling]] - [[Description of emotions chart]] - [[What triggers low mood for me]] - [[Frustration Dashboard]] - [[Emotions protocol.canvas|Emotions protocol]] ## Places We Go When Things are Uncertain - [[Stress]] ✅ - [[Overwhelm]] ✅ - [[Anxiety]] ✅ - [[Vulnerability]] ✅ %%% >[!REFLECTION]+ >I suffer from [[Stress]] but only occasionally from [[Overwhelm]]. When I get to those states I just need to **stop**! > >As I am a bit of a [[Perfectionism|perfectionist]] this means that I am more likely to be anxious. Of the two coping mechanisms for [[Anxiety]] (worry and avoidance) I hardly ever do the former (unlike Vicky!). I should remember that: > “*It is not fear that stops you from doing the brave and true thing in your daily life. Rather, the problem is avoidance. You want to feel comfortable, so you avoid doing or saying the thing that will evoke fear and other difficult emotions. ==Avoidance will make you feel less vulnerable in the short run, but it will never make you less afraid==.- ***Dr. Harriet Lerner*** > > Ultimately I need to be more [[Vulnerability|vulnerable]] in who I am as an individual. This will help my [[Leadership is emancipation]] approach, and create better life outcomes overall. > > Remember that this is not weakness: > If we can’t handle uncertainty, risk, and emotional exposure in a way that aligns with our values and furthers our organisational goals, we can’t lead. %%% ## Places We Go When We Compare - [[Comparison]] ✅ - [[Reverence]] ✅ - [[Envy]] ✅ - [[Jealousy]] ✅ - [[Resentment]] ✅ - [[Schadenfreude]] ✅ - [[Freudenfreude]] ✅ - [[Shoy and bragitude]] ✅ %%% >[!REFLECTION]+ >I don't have a huge amount of [[Jealousy]]/ find myself comparing myself to others a lot. But this could be happening unconsciously. > >Who or what do I revere? Who do I admire, respect, AND want to have a connection with? Jed Bartlett!? Who? Conversely, I don't think I envy anyone, either. I'm very privileged. > >At times I do exhibit Schadenfreude- I wonder if this is out of a misplaced desire to categorise and find a connection with my 'tribe'. Twitter is horrendous for this and I need to be careful for what I 'like'. That said, people being held to account for unethical behaviour is fine. > >I believe I'm OK at showing Freudenfreude but I'm not great at [[Shoy and bragitude]]. I'll add this to my daily rituals. %%% ## Places We Go When Things Don’t Go As Planned - [[Boredom]] ✅ - [[Disappointment]] ✅ - [[Regret]] ✅ - [[Discouraged, Resigned, and Frustrated]] ✅ %%% >[!REFLECTION]+ > When I'm bored I often read Reddit or the news. I need to do something more proactive that fires the imagination. > > Disappointment often comes from a need to rest and play. It's an unexpressed desire so it's often overlooked and unmet. > >I must remember that regret must be used towards gaining reflection, insight and wisdom. > >There is a vicious cycle here where play and rest can lead to regret (because we're bored and time wasn't used creatively) which leads to disappointment, which means we don't rest as much as we want, leading us to burnout, then rest, then boredom. >When I get angry with Zoë it's often because I'm frustrated that she is not meeting my expectations. I feel angry because I think that her behaviour is in my sphere of influence, however it's really not, so I feel frustrated. In some ways, then, it's better to feel frustrated. At the same time it's difficult because I don't know how I'm feeling, which leads to greater confusion. But I can feel both frustrated and angry (and lots of other emotions) at the same time. %%% ## Places We Go When It’s beyond Us - [[Awe and Wonder]] ✅ - [[Confusion]] ✅ - [[Curiosity and Interest]]✅ - [[Surprise]]✅ %%% >[!REFLECTION]+ >It would be wonderful to have more of this in my life. I want to be surprised and confused, awestruck and wonderstruck. I believe I’m a curios person, but I think I can cultivate this further. > >It’s really useful to think of confusion as the thing that leads to insight and understanding. Don’t get one without the other. %%% ## Places We Go When Things Aren’t What They Seem - [[Competing emotions]] ✅ - [[Amusement]] ✅ - [[Bittersweet]] - [[Nostalgia]] ✅ - [[Rumination]] ✅ - [[Cognitive Dissonance]] ✅ - [[Paradox (emotion)]] ✅ - [[Irony and Sarcasm]] ✅ ## Places We Go When We’re Hurting - [[Anguish]] ✅ - [[Hope]] ✅ - [[Hopelessness and Despair]] ✅ - [[Sadness]] ✅ - [[Grief]] ✅ ## Places We Go with Others - [[Compassion]] ✅ - [[Empathy]] ✅ - [[The Relationship Between Compassion and Empathy]] ✅ - [[Pity]] ✅ - [[Sympathy]] ✅ - [[Compassion fatigue]] ✅ - [[Boundaries]] ✅ ### Places We Go When We Fall Short - [[Shame]] ✅ - [[Self-compassion]] ✅ - [[Shame Resilience]] ✅ - [[Perfectionism]] - [[Guilt]] - [[Humiliation]] - [[Embarrassment]] %%% >[!Reflection]- >- I think I feel a lot of shame about the opportunities that I had as a child and my inability to take up these opportunities. > - Mum and dad not push me forward > - Didn’t prioritise my studies in the way I should > - Some poor performance from Giggleswick in particular > - Didn’t take up people on keeping in touch with them. Made me isolated. No friends went from Malsis to Gigg. Start again at New College, Tanzania, University. Post uni. > - feel flawed due to not belonging because not wealthy enough and also didn’t take up opportunities. >- I need to say that I am deserving of love and connection and friendship. >- Dad always used to make me feel shame for not doing better following school. Saying “all that money gone to waste…” >- I need to have more [[Self-compassion]]. Remember that everyone feels this way and I just need to be kind to myself. > - My self-compassion score suggests remembering my common humanity, and that everyone goes through similar pain, is where I need to concentrate. > - I also suffer from over-identification. Need to look into this further but maybe I need to disconnect between my past self and current self. >- And I need have empathy for myself and others. [[Empathy]] is incompatible with shame. %%% ### Places We Go When We Search for [[Connection]] ✅ - [[Belonging and Fitting In]] ✅ - [[Belonging Uncertainty]] ✅ - [[Connection]] ✅ - [[Disconnection]] ✅ - [[Invisibility]] ✅ - [[Loneliness]] ✅ ### Places We Go When the Heart Is Open - [[Love]] ✅ - [[Flooding]] - [[Hurt]] ✅ ### Places We Go When Life Is Good - [[Joy]] ✅ - [[Happiness]] - [[Calm]] - [[Contentment]] - [[Gratitude]] - [[Foreboding Joy]] ✅ - [[Relief]] - [[Tranquility]] ✅ - [[Lovelessness and Heartbreak]] ✅ - [[Trust (emotion)]] - [[Betrayal]] ✅ - [[Defensiveness]] - [[Flooding]] ✅ - [[Hurt]] ✅ ### Places We Go When We Feel Wronged - [[Anger]] ✅ - [[Contempt]] ✅ - [[Disgust]] ✅ - [[Dehumanization]] ✅ - [[Hate]] - [[Self-Righteousness]] ✅ ### Places We Go to Self-Assess - [[Pride]] - [[Hubris]] - [[Humility]] ### Cultivating Meaningful Connection - [[Near Enemies]] - [[Meaningful Connection]] ## See Also - taken from [[Source - Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown]]. - [[Ennui]] - [[Gaslighting|Gaslit]]