## Purpose - To cause the person to evaluate their life and consider making changes in their circumstances following a negative event - To recruit help and support from others. ([Location 1939](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1939)) ## Benefits - Owning our sadness is courageous and a necessary step in finding our way back to ourselves and each other. ([Location 1919](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1919)) - acknowledging and naming our own sadness is critical in the formation of [[Compassion]] and [[Empathy]]. In our saddest moments, we want to be held by or feel connected to someone who has known that same ache, even if what caused it is completely different. We don’t want our sadness overlooked or diminished by someone who can’t tolerate what we’re feeling because they’re unwilling or unable to own their own sadness. ([Location 1942](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1942)) - Sad people are less prone to judgmental errors, are more resistant to eyewitness distortions, are sometimes more motivated, and are more sensitive to social norms. They can act with more generosity, too. ([Location 1934](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1934)) >[!REFLECTION]+ >I probably need to ask myself “what am I sad about? What have I been sad about?” ## Links - Depression is a cluster of symptoms that persist over a period of time. ([Location 1923](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1923)) - Although sadness is one part of [[Grief]], grief involves a whole group of emotions and experiences. ([Location 1925](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1925))