## Definition - Both [[Disappointment]] and regret arise when an outcome was not what we wanted, counted on, or thought would happen. - With regret, we believe the outcome was caused by our decisions or actions. ([Location 1267](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1267)) ## Impact - What I regret most in my life are failures of kindness. Those moments when another human being was there, in front of me, suffering, and I responded … sensibly. Reservedly. Mildly. ([Location 1277](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1277)) - 90 percent of regrets fall into one of six categories: 1. education, 2. career, 3. romance, 4. parenting, 5. self-improvement, 6. leisure. - regret is one of our most powerful emotional reminders that [[Reflection]], change, and growth are necessary. - ==In our research, regret emerged as a function of empathy. And, when used constructively, it’s a call to courage and a path toward wisdom.== ([Location 1284](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1284)) - To live without regret is to believe we have nothing to learn, no amends to make, and no opportunity to be braver with our lives. ([Location 1288](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1288)) - what we regret most are our failures of courage, whether it’s the courage to be kinder, to show up, to say how we feel, to set [[Boundaries]], to be good to ourselves, to say yes to something scary. ([Location 1297](https://readwise.io/to_kindle?action=open&asin=B09DTJM18Q&location=1297)) ## Questions - What is the role of regret in [[Gibbs' Reflective Cycle]] and other models of reflection? ## See also - [[Disappointment]] - [[Discouraged, Resigned, and Frustrated]]